It isn't fortitude, it's stubbornness

    Hatred is a strong motivator. Perhaps, even the strongest. Like all other adolescents, I was stubborn. One to hold on to what I believe in, no matter what. I did things the way that I preferred them to be done because it was what I knew; what I was most accustomed to, even if it might not have been the best or wasn’t the most efficient. It was the kind of stubbornness where if you tell me the sky is blue and I thought otherwise, I’ll forever believe the sky is not blue. One might say that I had too much freedom to garner such an attitude, or that my parents didn’t raise me very well if I had such a mentality. In some ways, they’re both true. See; I grew up without a father for a majority of my life so far. The only reason why that I know of was for his company. We were a burden, and that burden prevented him from getting his company off the ground. After all, he was raising two children at the time; my brother, who was born before my father met my mother, and me. At the time, it was the only one that I could live with. It was the idea that my grandmother and mother had taught me, even if I knew there had to be something more to it than that.

The Blind Gray Matter of Today’s Generations

    Generations all have some kind of unique quirk, issue, or event that is related to them. Today, that “quirk” is acceptance into society through the medium that is social media. The most recent generations (chronologically called the “Millennials” and “Generation Z”), were ones that have been raised in the new age of technology. With it, comes the ability to essentially transform, say, or do whatever they seek. But as revolutionary as it sounds, social media has already developed to a point where it cultivates envious mindsets. Although the concept of “acceptance into society” on social media can bring some positive aspects out of humanity (specifically it’s teen demographic), it’s detrimental to teens as it will often times cause a loss of self-esteem and motivation, obsessions over virtual “points” (likes, comments) and overall promotes an envious attitude, and will often times decrease a person’s authenticity.

    Social media acts as a double-edged sword. While being able to connect everything and everyone together, means that so many things are intensified. Everyone can see everything. Thus, even the “severity” of reactions are increased. When teens view posts of other individuals, they put their self-esteem at risk every time they check social media. If there is an absence of any feedback on a post on Instagram or a status update on Facebook, teens will especially feel ignored, resulting in a decrease in their self-worth. As Dr. Archibald and Sylvia Hart state in their book “The Digital Invasion” about how technology is shaping people around the world, social media can easily turn into an environment where “success to feel diminished and failures amplified.” (Plett). A loss in self-esteem and depression are often related to social media usage. Thus, this “snowball” can keep rolling and can lead to a whole onset of other negative emotions.

    However, this can take a different path; it can turn into a competition. Teens œcan obsess over virtual “points” and unreasonably catering to them; a “1-up”-ing type of environment. In a survey done by Pew Internet of 600 Facebook users, 30% of respondents described to have a negative emotional state after browsing due to having jealousy of others more lavish lifestyle in relation to them--a clear display of how life satisfaction decreases as envy for others increases (Lenhart). To solve this, teens will comply with and cater their profiles and accounts towards what’s performing best. According to the same survey done by the above organization, about 40% of teens felt pressured to preserve posts that will be popular and makes oneself appear good to others. This is measured in the amount of likes, the type of feedback, or even the rate at which they are getting them. Teens are sacrificing individuality and heeding to what they believe will get them “accepted”.

    Unfortunately, that sacrifice will in turn decreases the a teen’s authenticity--to fit the standard that they want to be accepted into. Most individuals, however, don’t necessarily realize that. As the book “Authenticity and How We Fake It” by Aaron Duplantier puts it: Someone who seems to have a life on the exterior through posting about it daily will appear authentic, but only to viewers (Duplantier 71). It’s no doubt that social media can do many amazing things. However, that includes being able to curate another version of oneself. According to Pew Internet (who in which has conducted quite a lot of polls on the subject matter), about ¾ of teens that use social media believe that there is indeed a divide between what their peers’ online and offline personality in terms of authenticity (Lenhart). Another poll says that half of teens see posts about events that another individual weren’t invited to, further sharpening the line between what’s true and what’s not. Their seeking to be accepted creates a contrast that arguably nothing other than social media has imposed upon teens of today.

    However, one cannot deny that the concept of acceptance on social media and the internet in general has provided both adolescents and adults with new capabilities; the main benefit being that it allows people of shared interests to connect and interact with each other. In the professional environment, it can serve very well for teens in their future. As journalist Kelsey DeGideo points out on her article titled “Social Media: New Form of Acceptance?”, “Self promotion is something that is essentially required in this time for young people who are graduating and entering the workforce” (DeGideo). She personally has been asked by employers provide social media accounts for her employers to check through so that they get an idea of what DiGideo would be aside from how they would typically do before social media. Reach Out, an organization designated to help the mental health of young people, describes it as a way of “delivering educational outcomes; facilitating supportive relationships; identity formation; and, promoting a sense of belonging and self-esteem” (ReachOut). In some cases, the above is true in it’s ability to potentially develop the minds of teens.

    Yet, given its potential benefits, the concept of being “accepted” on social media is much more easily capable of being a detriment to teens rather than a blessing. It can promote, breed, and enrich the connection between teens and their ability to thinking, working, and acting together, as well as potentially improve their ability to transition into the workforce. However, it has a lot of potential to cause teens to lose their self-esteem, become consumed over the pressure to have a certain amount of internet “points”, and lose their authenticity All not in the best interest of parents or teens (the latter of which may not realize what they are doing). Social media and the internet has only been around for an extremely small portion of humanity’s existence, so the sample size current analysis are being done on is still quite minimal. However, it’s effects thus far will likely permeate well into the current and future generations; both its benefits and detriments.

nostalgia, ULTRA

nostalgia, ULTRA

Reminisce on the memories of your adolescence and realize the extremities of reality.

Changes to the blog:

• Renamed from "Write Before Defeat" to "nostalgia, ULTRA" to fit the theme "Coming of Age" for sophomore year
• Smooth scrolling (from what I can tell, only works on Chrome)
• Banner is now a gif instead of a plain image
• Comprehensive, organized assignment list
• Updated profile picture
• Removed social media sharing options
• Removed side-bar